I am not a guru when it comes to relationships. Lets just say I'm more of an observer. But have
you ever asked anyone if they are in a relationship and they respond with the
phrase “It’s complicated”? Or have
you ever responded to the same question with the complicated answer? A lot of
times I sit and wonder why and how we get into so much complicated situations.
I guess it’s just the Situationship
clause. A word I now strongly think should officially be added to the English
dictionary just the way I added it to my Microsoft word dictionary now that I
am writing this.
Honestly,
I’m not sure if this is 100% applicable, but it definitely defines most of the
bases on getting into the complicated/Situationship category. Okay, think about
this for a minute and decide for yourself.
Scenario one:
Boy in a relationship
meets girl in a relationship, girl likes boy, boy is a happy go lucky fella but
willing to have a little fun. So, they begin to spend time together. Boy tells
girl he is in a relationship, girl comes to terms with it but still wants to
spend time with boy. Girl starts to like boy and starts to see original
boyfriend’s weakness as boy’s strength. Boy is having a little fun so he is
good.
Boyfriend starts to suspect something is going on, so girl and boyfriend
starts to ague frequently. Girl has boy’s shoulders to lean on when boyfriend
gets nasty. At the end of the day Girl and boyfriend break up. Since boy was
always there girl feels boy is the hero always there and thinks he is an
alternative (after all, the fiasco started because of boy). The connection to
boy is strong but only for boy to remind girl that he is in a relationship and
had always been in a relationship. Boy has some slight feeling for girl so boy
keeps comforting girl. Somewhere in girl’s mind she is thinking boy will break
up one day and then they’ll be together. Girl is automatically caught up in the
situation.
Scenario 2:
Girl
meets boy, boy meets girls. They both get really close girl likes boy, boy
likes girl. Boy wants to date girl, apparently girl has always had this crush
on the next door neighbor hoping the neighbor will one day knock at the door.
So she intends to be single when neighbor gets the eureka to show up at the
front door with his arms open wide. Boy has no clue of this but boy wants to
date girl so he is constantly on her case. Though they are involved in every
possible way beyond the FWB line.
Boy for some reason keeps sticking around. In this case because
boy is madly in love with girl and gets everything from girl except the
boyfriend title he forgets he’s in a SITUATIONSHIP. Girl will walk away the
very moment next door neighbor knocks at the door.
I'm tired of making up scenarios already. I guess you get the general idea. Word on the street is that Cupid got shot dead and people don't genuinely fall in love magically anymore. So in my opinion, the best way to deal is just be on the same page, but humans will always be somewhat selfish.
But wait! is cupid really dead?
